I am a cleaning machine today. I think it's fueled by stress. We were filling out our mortgage paperwork last night and the reality set in. Buying a house is a huge deal. It's like getting married or having a baby.
Speaking of which...I dropped the ball big time.
I didn't have an expensive, fancy wedding...unless you consider us, the Pastor and the photographer fancy...but it was EXACTLY what I wanted. A private, inexpensive, beautiful wedding outside followed by a candlelit meal that we got from a take out along the way to our honeymoon cabin. I got chicken fingers and fries, Jay had pizza. It was awesome.
I, however dropped the ball when it came to having a bridal shower. No towels, no mixing bowls, no toaster, no pots, no pans, no vases, no picture frames...NOTHING! Aside from a cute cartoon picture my friend Amy gave me of Jay and I getting married, I missed out on the whole thing. I didn't get good gifts, I didn't get stupid gifts. Nadda.
My mother however had a shower for me in NL without me being present and the money people gave got deposited into my student loan debt...oh joy... I am thankful for that, but you have to admit it's not as fun as digging through seas of presents with shiney white and silver paper.
At first this didn't bother me...but now that I am a bit older and I spend alot of time at home...I get a little sad everytime I look at my towels. My towels are my mother's discards that she wrapped breakables in to send me for Christmas and birthdays. I also get sad when I look at my silverware...which is actually some kind of plastic-like silver that rusts if left to dry in the dishwasher. Thankfully, when my mom came to visit me in March, she looked at the state of my mixing bowels (A.K.A: one massive one) and she dragged me to Target to get a set...so I know longer cry when I have to mix a pancake for one in a bowel for 500.
So here's my question. Is it wrong to register for a house warming? Especially if, for instance, that person never got any presents when he/she got married? I read online that it's bad manners...but would people be offended given the above stated information, if I sent out invitations to a house warming with a little link on the bottom that may contain some things I need and like?
Give me your opinion.
3 comments:
I don't think that's too much to ask at all! Sure I would do the same thing if I were you! All while I was reading your blog, I was thinking "Kathy should have a belated wedding shower." But the house warming idea is even better! Good luck with the planning. I only wish you lived closer so I could visit more :( Who knows - maybe someday!
Do it! I think that any new stage of life makes people want to buy presents (I know that's how I feel!) Wedding, baby, new house - they're all stages of life where you need stuff. And your friends want to buy you stuff that you will like and that will make your transition into your new life stage fun!
I just left a reply, but it didn't post, so now I don't know what I said...
But I think you should have a house-warming party. Let the people who want to celebrate with you in your buying a new home (!)-- which is quite an accomplishment, do so by participating in the house warming... I think there is nothing rude or bad-mannered about it at all... house warming parties are awesome, and if you still feel weird about it, get a friend to "throw the party" or send out the invitations.
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